Disability Day of Mourning: Honouring Disabled Victims of Filicide & Saying “Never Again”


Every year in the first week of March, people gather worldwide to honour and remember people who were murdered by their parents or other caregivers. This year, Autistics for Autistics will be observing the Disability Day of Mourning on March 2nd. We will gather virtually for a Zoom presentation that will include brief remarks, followed by the reading of the names and remembering of the victims of disability filicide, with a group discussion afterwards.

Unfortunately, the legal system has typically been more lenient towards parents who kill their disabled children, blaming the disability for the murder. As well, copycat murders often happen in the wake of a parent killing their disabled child.

The Disability Day of Mourning is a way to stand up for the victims of these murders, as we continue to pressure our legal system for true justice and the right to life, safety and care for all disabled people. It is also our way of saying to victims and their loved ones: “we honour you, we remember you, and you had the right to live.”

More information on how to register for the event:
https://www.facebook.com/events/s/disability-day-of-mourning-202/1491360298995539/

Autistic Rights & Disability Rights: A4A’s Statement to the United Nations Association in Canada

We were recently asked to contribute to the United Nations Association in Canada Toronto Region Branch World Autism Day report. While we observe Autistic Pride Day in June (not World Autism Day), we hope that World Autism Day can be an opportunity for the conversation about autistic rights and neurodiversity to advance. Following is our statement in response to their questions.

About Us: Advocacy, funding, goals

Autistics for Autistics provides support and advocacy for autistic people in Canada through activities and online social groups for autistic adults, as well as education in the broader community about autism and inclusion, and advocacy for better policies for autistics of all ages (on the city, provincial and national level).

Our organization does not rely on autism agencies, social workers or any bureaucratic structures. We are funded only by individuals’ donations. Our services are all administered by autistic Canadians from our leadership team.

We advocate for humane autism services for children–e.g., neuro-affirming speech & occupational therapy and accessibility/inclusion in classrooms and all aspects of social life. We are opposed to ABA and behaviourism in any form, for any age.

We provide education to hospitals, medical schools and employers on making their spaces accessible for autistic people (for example, through the Autistic Health Access Project).

We advocate against abusive group homes/congregate settings and sheltered workshops and we work for policy changes to open up supportive independent living for intellectually disabled adults, where they have choices in housing and recreational activities as well as fair wages for employment.

We also advocate for public funding so that autistic people can work part time or full time and have appropriate workplace accommodations, so that they can be economically independent and retain employment.

The Change We Need, for Autistics of All Ages

Structural barriers exist for all autistic Canadians, and it is wrong to state that autistic children “get more services than adults,” when in reality the majority of “services” for autistic children in Canada are based on behaviourist special education/therapy practices that are extremely traumatic and harmful.

The City and all of Canada need to immediately BAN SECLUSION ROOMS and install cameras in all special education settings to document and end the human rights abuses that are endemic in many special education classrooms. We need education programs, such as those led by the Alliance Against Seclusion and Restraint, to give special education professionals the skills they need to manage their classrooms in a trauma-informed, peaceful way.

We also need Communication Access for all non-speaking or partially-speaking people—children and adults. There should be no delay, and no limits on access to Alternative and Augmentative tools, such as AAC devices, so that children and adults can communicate their needs, thoughts and feelings. Communication is a human right.

In Toronto, autistic adults need work opportunities that accommodate our disability (for example, health benefits for people who can only work part time, and sensory options in the office such as quiet space for work). We also need more education for employers on hiring and retaining autistic employees.

Finally, we need to end the infantilization of autistic people by many autism services professionals and replace it with an attitude of true support and confidence that we can do things like work, live independently, have families and be leaders.

Diagnosis–and Disability Rights

Diagnostic barriers are threefold. First, many people have to wait a long time to get a publicly-funded assessment, because our health care system is underfunded. Second, a private assessment (available more quickly) is cost-prohibitive for the majority of autistic people. Third, while some autism assessors promise that an assessment will lead to an easier life/services/disability accommodations, we actually do not have the right to any of these in Canadian law.

Stigma at school, work and in health care is a daily reality for autistic people, and a diagnosis does not fix that. The only way to fix that is to fix policy by finally ensuring that autistic people included in disability rights legislation in Canada. We are advocating for this!

Autistics for Autistics follows a disability rights model based on the principles of the disability rights movement, including: “Nothing about us without us”. Through the disability rights movement, people with physical disabilities achieved a major shift in society with the concept of adaptations and accessibility legislation, legally guaranteeing them the right to access public spaces, education and employment and make their own decisions about their support. In Canada, autistic people are not included in disability rights legislation—and we should be.

Parents and families are our allies in working towards inclusion, access, opportunities and the freedom to make our own choices, with supports, whether we are intellectually disabled, non-speaking or have any other disability.

How to Support Autistic People in Canada

There are many ways to support autistic people in Canada.

  • Friends, family and supporters can connect with groups like Autistics for Autistics, LiveWorkPlay, Community Living Ontario or the Alliance Against Seclusion & Restraint (Canadian chapter) and volunteer.
  • Those with children in public schools can join the Parent Council at their school, outreach to families of autistic and intellectually disabled students and work with the school and teachers to make it more inclusive.
  • If you own a workplace or are involved in hiring, find out from autistic advocates how you can recruit and retain autistic employees.
  • If you are in the health care sector, you can take A4A’s free 90-minutes intro course on making your clinic more accessible to autistic patients and/or non-speaking patients who use assistive communication devices.

Upcoming Event: Disability Day of Mourning Online Vigil

Our next event is the annual Disability Day of Mourning on March 2, an online event that’s part of an international series of vigils against filicide, organized by the Autistic Self-Advocacy Network. We gather to remember disabled children and adults who were murdered by their parents/relatives. We remember that these victims were made in the image of God, their lives had meaning and they deserved to have lives filled with joy and kindness, not be treated as burdens and murdered.

Hope for the Future

We have a lot of hope for the future, because many more families are getting involved in advocacy around the human rights issues affecting autistic people. Historically, when we look at the great strides made by people with other disabilities and their families, we can see a model for change—the social model of disability—that can challenge the discrimination and stigmatization autistic people face today.

Autistic people are unique, and have unique communication and disability access needs, but we have more in common with non-autistics than we have differences. Autistic people are not otherworldly, or other at all. We’re part of the human family. By working together to end stereotypes about autistic people, to stop abuse in special education and group homes, and to ensure access to employment, health care and cultural spaces, we are shifting the landscape, so that autistic people can be valued and welcomed throughout the community.

We will continue to educate and advocate for our rights until we reach that goal.

 

Autistic advocacy in Ontario: Highlights from 2022

The past year has been exciting, as we returned to in-person events and continue to grow, with new projects and connections across Canada!

Some highlights:

  • We raised the neurodiversity flag at Toronto City Hall, after 2 years of virtual observances. It was incredible to be together again in real life and to break bread (well, cake) and feel so welcomed by the protocols staff at Toronto City Hall. Thank you to all who attended.
  • We provided info & spoke before the Senate of Canada, together with Autistics United Canada (AUC), about the need for federal policymakers to move from a charity perspective to a rights perspective. Canadian policymakers need to begin to study best practices in disability policy and consult with autistic-led groups.
  • We continued to partner with the Centre for Independent Living Toronto (CILT) to improve vaccine access for autistic/disabled people through the Disability Vaccine Outreach Initiative, including our vaccine info webinar, social media outreach and one-to-one outreach by our amazing Vaccine Ambassadors, Gaby and Sam, to ensure access for autistic Torontonians with support needs. We are so glad that CILT included us in this important project!
  • We led the annual Disability Day of Mourning in Ontario, remembering those who were murdered by their parents/caregivers and saying: Never Again. Our members read names, gave speeches and provided support through a virtual vigil on March 2. Thank you to everyone who made this important vigil happen.
  • A4A members presented to the Ontario Association of College and University Housing Officers and to University of Waterloo about inclusion, student life and new research on autistic students in college and university. We have more invitations to present on this topic early in the new year!
  • We continued our groundbreaking Autistic Health Outreach Project, educating Canadian medical students about autistic health access needs at the University of Toronto and Queen’s University medical schools.
  • We continued to support and collaborate with Community Living Ontario to work towards ending abusive long-term care and institutional housing in our province, through the Alliance on Aging and Disability. Thank you to all partners for all their hard work on this issue, to our rep Taryn and to Shawn from Community Living for inviting us.
  • A4A was an organizing partner in the online annual Canadian national conference on the International Day for Persons with Disabilities (United Nations), which was hosted by the Alliance for Equality of Blind Canadians, streamed on Accessible Media International and featured speakers and participants from around the world.
  • We were contacted by media for stories about ABA, restraint and seclusion in schools, media portrayals of autism and other topics. It was especially awesome to be contacted by OWL magazine for their neurodiversity feature!
  • We consulted with a community coalition about the need to modify the existing Accessibility for Ontarians Act. At present, autistics are not included among the disabled groups protected by this legislation, creating a barrier when we try to seek inclusion and pursue human rights complaints.
  • We attempted to consult with the Public Health Agency of Canada about priorities in federal autism appropriations. Unfortunately, PHAC continued its pattern of devaluing autistic people’s input and time, so for the well-being of our reps we left the conversation. We will continue to connect with MPs, Senators and other federal agencies instead.
  • We continued to educate employers on inclusive supports and communication access for autistic people through our Autistic At Work presentation, and to present to mental health organizations about access and inclusion.
  • We began to plan for 2023, including launching our Neurodiversity Library with support from the Autistic Women & Nonbinary Network; joining a new, national coalition project to work for regulating legislation on restraint and seclusion in schools; taking action to promote supported independent living options for autistic and intellectually disabled people; new advocacy to protect people with epilepsy from cyber attacks; policy work, education initiatives and much more.

I feel so honoured to work with the Board and volunteers, who are the most incredible people. Any policymaker, parent, educator or organization is lucky to have access to their time, perspective and ideas. I can’t wait to see what the future brings for autistic rights in 2023.

-Anne Borden King